Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Thought for the day

"Our sons and daughters will be grown so quickly and these days at home together will be nothing but a distant memory.  Let's make the most of every moment."
--Parenting Isn't For Cowards, p. 17

Tuesday, June 9, 2009

I didn't see this in the real estate ad

I have written a number of times about how much Em and I (and AJ) are enjoying our new home--so true!  However, there have been many new things to deal with...some are less than desirable.  Here is a list of a few...most of them creature/critter related.

In the last six months I have:
  • Trapped/killed and "disposed" of 6 mice (this one actually got a little addicting--checking the traps became a little exciting...I know, I'm weird)
  • Disposed of two dead rabbits brought to my attention from my lovely beagle (I'm not sure if she killed them or what happened...but I know I had to walk them both in a pooper-scooper across the street to the woods)
  • Bought a 25 foot plumbing snake and worked out a huge toilet clot (probably because we were flushing baby wipes which you're not supposed to do) on my hands and knees with my hands in toilet water
  • And finally, killed 4 or 5 centipedes
I actually just finished killing a centipede in our bedroom.  This makes the list because they look like this!
I had no idea what it was so I googled it...turns out to be a centipede.  But check this out, apparently they're extremely good to have in the home (I doubt I'll convince Emily)!  According to a number of different web-resources I found that:
The house centipede (which is an indoor creature in the North, but mostly an outdoor dweller down South, despite its name) is a highly beneficial household helper—eating lots of fleas, ants, flies, silverfish, roaches, ticks and other pests. Forget about using insecticides against them, they ARE insecticides! Get rid of your centipedes and you will almost certainly increase the number of TRUE indoor pests in your home.
Anyway, enough of the Entomology lesson...home ownership brings lots of new and interesting challenges, that is for sure!

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Two years down...life to go!

Last Saturday I celebrated two years of sobriety. A few reflections and stories from my weekend of celebration!

I decided last year that I would visit The Retreat every year with my kids on my alcoholic birthday. It serves a few purposes. First of all it is a reminder to me where I was two years ago. It will always be my "home base" of recovery and always have a special place in my heart. For me, a miracle happened there--I got my life back! Secondly, it serves as another good time (especially as my kid(s) get older) to speak to them about my alcoholism and their need to be very careful with alcohol given their family history. Thirdly, it is a chance to get to meet some of the current "residents" of the facility and for the parents currently away from their family to get to play with a child. The women especially seem to enjoy this. And finally, I get to see the staff and be an encouragement to them. I can only imagine how much pain and disappointment comes with working with alcoholics. It is sad to say, but the sad stories outnumber the successes and I want to encourage them to keep on keepin on! To see last year's post click here. So all that being said, on Friday I took AJ to visit The Retreat and we had a great time. He particularly liked the path that had all 12 steps written on it...I got a great picture of him studying Step 4, which I credit as being one of the most valuable to my miracle there.














On Saturday I served for a couple hours at the Gopher State Roundup event held in Bloomington where over 7,000 other alcoholics were there sharing in the day. It was great to be a part of.

On Sunday evening I went up to The Retreat again to receive my Two-year Medallion from my sponsor. It was a really proud moment for me. It is always neat to receive the medallions there. I remember the first day at the Retreat very well...I was sleeping off my last night of drinking when they came in my room and pulled me down into the basement. Apparently there was a tornado warning. I came out of my drunk fog in this room filled with people thinking to myself "I can't do this". Now, in this very same room I get to tell how I did it, am continuing to do it, and how they can do it too if they follow the program of Alcoholics Anonymous. It is a beautiful thing to share my experience and give back...and AA says my life depends on it!



Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Neighbor News

First of all, Emily and I have been loving our new house.  This past weekend it fulfilled two of the "dreams" we had about owning a home in a neighborhood.

  1. The ability to accomodate family fun.  On Sunday we had the entire in-laws over which included 8 adults and all three kiddie-pies.  We ate on the deck, played games in the back...it was perfect.  We now have the size and the yard to fit everyone who we love to be with--and a great backyard for summer shenanigans!
  2. To get to know neighbors and be part of a neighborhood with other young families.  Lately we have gotten to know two other families directly behind our house and enjoyed letting AJ and his cousins play with them and with their toys.  Also, one of the families are dedicated Christians and are interested in reaching out with us to the rest of the neighborhood...needless to say I'm excited about that prospect.
On the downer side...I have no respect for the discipline philosophy of this family directly behind us.  They are very permissive, do the counting thing ("one....two.....three"--argh!), and seem to be captive to the whims of their three-year-old.  An example--yesterday the three-year-old was in our sandbox and his mother told me to send him home in two minutes for lunch.  She returned after five, and I told her I couldn't get him to leave because I had "no leaverage", to which she responded, "yeah, me either!".  No leaverage!?!  You're his mom who controls privileges, spankings, time outs, etc!  Yikes....I may be overreacting, but to me that was a stunning statement.  I may have to watch out a little if AJ is exposed to some of this family dynamic! 

All in all we feel so blessed to have this home and we are so grateful!

Thursday, April 30, 2009

Be thankful it's just Swine Flu

With all the talk, hype, (and yes hysteria) of Swine Flu, it was timely that yesterday I listened to an hour of radio with guest David M. Oshinsky who wrote "Polio: An American Story".  I was enamoured with the account of America's battle with a REAL epidemic...Polio.  I was especially interested as my grandfather Harold Bock got polio and spent the majority of his life crippled by what it had done to his body.  Here is what I learned of Polio from Oshinsky:

  • Polio was/is a contagious intestinal disease entering through the mouth into the digestive system.  Ultimately into the nervous system where nerve paralysis would occur
  • Polio was largely a child's disease, striking fear into everyone...especially parents
  • Most children contracted a mild case of polio and their bodies would make a lifetime of antibodies--but about 1 out of 100 cases the virus entered the central nervous system
  • There was no prevention, and no cure
  • At the height of the virus (the early 1950's) there were about 50,000 kids per year came down with polio...about half of which were seriously paralized and a small percentage killed
  • Polio came like a plague every summer infecting children--no one knows exactly why polio thrived in summer.  Parents therefore kept kids indoors, out of pools, and sometimes away from friends in what was usually the happiest time of year for kids 
  • Kids infected where kept out of movie theatres, crowds, pools...some cities even banned all children under the age of 16 from entering their town
  • Polio was largely a Western disease (Particularily American) because it thrived in antiseptic (clean) enviornments
  • Treatment included an Iron Lung in cases where paralysis made it into the lungs--Usually people would spend a few months or even a number of years in these coffin-like breathing machines.  There are some cases where people have spent 30, 40, or even 50 years in them!  A small number of people are still in these today after decades! Can you imagine? (See Picture)
My point in all of this is three-fold.  First, it was really interesting to hear the Professor talk about the reason it thrived in the U.S.--we were so clean!  Apparently this is true of other sicknesses as well.  It has been shown that our obsessiveness with germs played a large role in the epidemic of polio.  Oshinsky warned parents of the benefits of allowing our children to build lifetime immunities from being exposed to germs.  Secondly, I am so thankful that largely because of the March of Dimes, we came up with a vaccine for this terrible virus.  I'd wager most of us don't even think about it when we bring our kids in for shots.  Lastly, while the Swine Flu may turn out to be a big deal (I seriously doubt it...like Mad Cow, Bird Flu, heterosexual AIDS, etc), let's be thankful we are not fighting a major epidemic like Polio. Let's keep it in perspective and not keep feeding the money-making, hysteria-inducing efforts of Mass Media!

In defense of marriage

Here's a video that's really good.  I think it's a video everyone should watch:

Conservatives:  This may help you articulate your views when talking with friends
Liberals:  You may not have ever heard an articulate explanation of conservative opposition to same-sex marriage...this may help you see "us" as having different but reasonable opinions that does not mean we are homophobic or gay-haters.

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Old Poll/New Poll: This house bans guns on premises

Regarding my last poll on unsafe elderly drivers 86% (wow!) of us voted that there should be mandatory drivers tests every few years for elderly drivers starting at a set age.  I agree completely and that is what I voted.  The bad news is...this will never happen.  The elderly population is such a large and powerful portion of the population that they hold huge political power.  Imagine being the polititian that suggests this new law...it would be political suicide.  For now, we will have to watch out for the Buicks and Lincolns out there!

The new poll is regarding guns in the home.  After a close friend had a little bit of a scare (with a drunken man angrily cursing, pounding on their front door, and trying to get in their home) I have had some discussions with people about whether they have a gun in their home or whether they would consider it.  How about you?  Vote!